My Wife Never Wants to Have Sex, What Should I Do?

Nothing chips away at a man’s confidence quite like ongoing rejection in the bedroom. You may be feeling unwanted, discouraged, even resentful. If your wife never wants to have sex, it’s easy to start blaming yourself or thinking something’s wrong with you or your marriage. I’ve walked men through this exact struggle countless times, and I can promise you there is a path forward. You don’t have to live in a sexless marriage. You can take real action and change the story.

Why She Never Wants Sex Anymore

One of the first steps is to stop looking for a magic answer and start understanding the real reasons intimacy has faded. Over time, almost every couple goes through dry spells, but when those spells stretch into months or even years, something deeper is going on.

In Get Her To F*ck You Again, I break down the hidden habits that push couples into dead bedroom territory. These aren’t just surface-level problems. It’s about how both people change in the relationship—how routines, stress, work, and kids slowly squeeze out excitement and attraction. It’s often a gradual process that neither of you notices until one day, you realize there’s no physical connection left.

The Trap of Trying Harder

Many men think the answer is to become even more accommodating, buy more gifts, or go out of their way to please their wife. In reality, this only makes things worse. When I hear stories from my clients, the theme is almost always the same: “I tried to do everything right, and nothing worked.”

Take my client “Ben.” He bent over backward to avoid conflict, always said yes, and hoped that if he made his wife’s life easier, she’d reward him with affection. Instead, the more he tried, the further apart they became. The issue wasn’t effort—it was the lack of genuine attraction and respect that started to disappear when Ben stopped prioritizing himself.

The Real Solution Begins With You

When men ask me, “What should I do?” my answer always starts with self-respect. Attraction in marriage isn’t about being the most helpful or the nicest guy in the room. It’s about being a man who is sure of himself, focused, and living a life that excites him. Women are drawn to men who have their own interests, passions, and drive.

That’s why the first step is turning the focus back on yourself. In Get Her To F*ck You Again, I outline a roadmap for becoming more confident, energized, and purpose-driven. It’s not about being selfish—it’s about being whole. When you invest in your own growth, you become more attractive, not just to your wife but to everyone around you.

Why Talking About Sex Doesn’t Fix the Problem

Another common approach is to talk things to death. You sit down, share your feelings, and ask your wife what’s wrong. While honest communication is important, endless conversations about why she never wants sex usually lead nowhere. In fact, they often create even more pressure and distance.

When “James” reached out to me, he was exhausted from talking. Every discussion ended with his wife saying she just wasn’t interested, and James left feeling more rejected than ever. It wasn’t until he stopped making sex the main topic—and started focusing on building a life worth living—that things changed. Attraction can’t be negotiated or reasoned into existence; it’s built by who you are and how you show up.

The Power of Presence and Action

A core message in my book is that attraction is felt, not talked into being. Presence is magnetic. When you walk into a room and know who you are, people notice. The same goes for your wife. If you want her to see you differently, you have to become different. That means building habits that fuel your confidence: exercise, personal goals, social connections, and a clear sense of direction.

My client “Chris” felt invisible to his wife for years. He used the strategies in Get Her To F*ck You Again to rebuild his health, start new hobbies, and connect with friends again. The result? His wife began to look at him with curiosity instead of indifference. Soon, physical touch started coming back naturally.

Consistency Wins

Change won’t happen overnight, and you may face skepticism or resistance at first. Your wife might wonder if this is just another phase or if you’re truly different. That’s normal. What matters is that you stay consistent. When you keep making progress, taking care of yourself, and living with confidence, the energy in your marriage will shift.

I created the 12-week workbook to help men stay on track. Every week, there’s a challenge designed to build momentum and keep you moving forward. When men stick with it, they see a steady return of respect, connection, and, often, intimacy.

Why Respect Is More Powerful Than Romance

Respect and attraction go hand in hand. When your wife respects you, she becomes open to intimacy again. But respect can’t be demanded or pleaded for. It’s earned by living with strength, courage, and commitment to yourself.

When “Eric” stopped putting his wife on a pedestal and started standing up for his values, everything changed. She saw him as a man she could trust, admire, and desire—not just someone who was always available.

Rebuilding Trust and Attraction

One of the most overlooked reasons for a sexless marriage is a lack of trust. When trust is missing, it’s nearly impossible for desire to grow. Trust isn’t just about fidelity; it’s about reliability, emotional strength, and your ability to handle life’s challenges.

The principles in Get Her To F*ck You Again focus on making you trustworthy—not just in the sense of keeping promises, but by being solid, unshakeable, and present in every part of your life. When your wife feels she can rely on you, both emotionally and practically, it opens the door for intimacy to return.

Taking Ownership Without Guilt

It’s easy to blame your wife or the situation, but real change starts when you take ownership of your role. This isn’t about guilt or shame. It’s about accepting responsibility for your own growth, regardless of what your wife does or doesn’t do. When you make positive changes for yourself, the ripple effect touches every part of your marriage.

Real Stories, Real Results

“Marcus” was on the edge of giving up. He’d been rejected for so long, he started sleeping on the couch. After working through the book and the 12-week workbook, he messaged me with good news: “I stopped waiting for her to change and focused on building a life I’m proud of. Suddenly she started flirting with me again. We’re closer now than ever.”

“Adam” told me: “It wasn’t about what she was or wasn’t doing. Once I stepped up and became the man I wanted to be, intimacy followed. The workbook helped me stay the course.”

Frequently Asked Questions

Will things get better if I just wait?
Change comes from action, not hope. The longer you wait, the deeper the patterns get.

Should I tell my wife about what I’m doing?
Let your actions do the talking at first. Real change is hard to miss.

What if nothing changes?
Even if intimacy doesn’t return overnight, you’ll be stronger, happier, and ready for whatever comes next.

The First Step Is Up To You

If you’re tired of feeling unwanted and ready to take back control of your marriage and your confidence, start with Get Her To F*ck You Again. Commit to the 12-week workbook for lasting results. The answers you need are within reach. Don’t spend another night wondering what went wrong. Take the first step today, and watch everything change.