After years of frustration, rejection, and distance, you
finally did it. You turned your marriage around. You took the lessons from Get Her To F*ck You
Again, rebuilt your confidence, and reignited that spark that had been dead
for years. She’s looking at you differently now. The energy is back. You feel
desired again.
But here’s where most men fall short—they stop.
They think because they “fixed it,” the work is done. They
slide right back into the same habits that killed attraction in the first
place. And within months, the tension fades again, the spark dies out, and the
bedroom grows quiet.
That’s what Keep Your B*tch is about—keeping
attraction alive, not for a month or a year, but for life.
Attraction Isn’t a Goal—It’s a Practice
Attraction isn’t something you win once and then keep
forever. It’s a living, breathing force that feeds off who you are every day.
The man your wife feels drawn to is confident, purposeful, and consistent. The
moment you start coasting, she starts disconnecting.
I’ve worked with hundreds of men who thought fixing their
marriage was a one-time thing. They read my first book, did the work, and saw
results. Then life got comfortable again, and they fell back into the same
patterns—over-explaining, over-giving, avoiding conflict, and losing that
masculine edge she was drawn to.
One of my clients, “Daniel,” was a perfect example. After
saving his marriage with the principles in Get Her To F*ck You Again, he
got complacent. He stopped hitting the gym, stopped pursuing his own interests,
and started living for her validation again. Within six months, she was pulling
away.
What turned it around wasn’t another grand gesture—it was
consistency. He picked himself back up, reestablished his boundaries, and got
back to leading himself with purpose. The attraction returned quickly because
she could feel his strength again.
Comfort Kills Attraction
The enemy of attraction isn’t conflict—it’s comfort. Comfort
leads to routine, predictability, and boredom. Your wife doesn’t want to live
in a state of chaos, but she also doesn’t want to feel like she knows every
move you’ll make for the next ten years.
When she first fell for you, she saw a man with drive. You
had ambition, mystery, and the confidence to take risks. Over time, many men
lose that and replace it with safety. You stop being the man who excites her
and become the man who just gets through the day.
In Keep Your B*tch, I go deep into this idea. Comfort
feels safe, but it’s toxic to desire. Keeping attraction alive means never
fully letting your wife figure you out. Stay unpredictable. Stay growing. Keep
her guessing where your energy will take you next.
The Polarity Between You Must Stay Alive
Attraction is the dance between two distinct energies—yours
and hers. When those energies blur, desire fades. Too many men try to meet
their wives on emotional terms instead of maintaining their own frame.
Polarity thrives when both of you stand firm in who you are.
You don’t have to dominate or control her, but you do have to maintain your
direction. The more you bring your energy to life with purpose, the more she
responds naturally to it.
When I coached “Ryan,” he admitted that he became
emotionally dependent on his wife after fixing their dead bedroom. He kept
checking her mood, her reactions, and her approval. Once he stopped doing
that—once he centered himself again—everything reignited. She didn’t need
reassurance anymore; she could feel his stability.
Never Stop Growing
Attraction thrives when you evolve. If you stop growing,
she’ll stop feeling drawn to you. Growth doesn’t have to mean changing careers
or climbing mountains—it means becoming better, sharper, more alive.
When I wrote Keep Your B*tch, I wanted to create a
roadmap for sustained growth. You can’t stay attractive by standing still. The
moment you think you’ve arrived is the moment she starts disconnecting.
Growth looks like this: pushing yourself physically,
mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Learning new things. Setting goals that
scare you. Refusing to live on autopilot. A man in motion is always attractive
because motion creates energy—and energy keeps her hooked.
Protect Your Standards
One of the biggest lessons from Keep Your B*tch is
that attraction is maintained through standards, not effort. You don’t keep her
by constantly proving yourself; you keep her by living in alignment with who
you are.
If you lower your standards to keep peace, you’ll lose her
respect. If you maintain your standards, even when it’s uncomfortable, she’ll
admire you.
A client named “Nick” learned this the hard way. After his
marriage turned around, he thought saying yes to everything would keep his wife
happy. Instead, she lost interest. When he reestablished his boundaries and
started saying no when necessary, the respect—and the attraction—came back.
Sex Is a Mirror
The state of your sex life reflects the state of your
connection. If intimacy starts fading again, it’s not just about her
libido—it’s a sign something deeper is off. Either you’ve stopped leading with
confidence, or she’s stopped respecting your frame.
When you see that happening, don’t panic. See it as
feedback. Attraction is reactive—it responds to energy, direction, and tension.
If the energy between you starts to feel stale, reignite it through action, not
conversation. Go live fully again. She’ll feel it.
How to Keep the Spark Alive Long-Term
Here’s the truth that most marriage advice avoids: you can’t
“fix” attraction once and be done with it. It’s not a repair—it’s a lifestyle.
In Keep Your B*tch, I teach that attraction lasts
when you live as the man she fell for—not the man who’s trying to hold onto her
approval. It means staying curious about life, maintaining confidence through
growth, and living with intention every single day.
That’s also why the 12-week workbook
is so essential. It’s designed to give men structure, consistency, and
accountability. The habits you build through that process are what sustain
attraction for the long haul.
Real Stories, Real Men
One of the most rewarding parts of my work is hearing from
men who took control of their lives and marriages. “Evan,” for example, turned
a five-year dead bedroom into a passionate, respectful marriage. But more
importantly, he’s kept it that way for three years. His secret? He never
stopped investing in himself.
“Marco” learned that the goal wasn’t just to get his wife to
want him again—it was to live a life that naturally inspired her to keep
wanting him. Once he understood that, everything changed.
The Hard Truth About Complacency
The hardest truth I share in Keep Your B*tch is that
attraction doesn’t die because of time—it dies because of complacency. Most men
think the biggest threat to marriage is conflict, but it’s not. It’s sameness.
When every day looks the same, when there’s nothing new to
discover about you, attraction fades quietly. Keeping your wife attracted
long-term means keeping her intrigued, not by playing games, but by being a man
who keeps evolving.
Your Next Step
If you’ve turned your marriage around after a dead bedroom,
congratulations—you’ve done what most men never do. But don’t stop now.
Attraction is a living thing, and if you want it to thrive, you have to nurture
it daily.
That’s what my upcoming book Keep Your B*tch is all
about. It’s not just about keeping her interested—it’s about becoming the kind
of man she never stops wanting.
Grab your copy of Get Her To F*ck You
Again if you haven’t already, and commit to the 12-week workbook
to maintain your momentum until Keep Your B*tch launches in December.
The attraction you built isn’t fragile—it just needs you to
stay consistent.
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